The Mean of Being A Man

Today I want to celebrate men who are trying to redefine what it means to be one.

Here’s to the the men who react instead of respond. Here’s to the the men who take care of their bodies and eat like adults, not coping teenagers. Here’s to the men who want better and decide to walk with mirrors, not to check their hair but to examine their character and be aware of how their words and actions impact others. Here’s to the men who admit their defects and shortcomings and constantly strive to be better. Here’s to the men who work on their relationships by working on themselves, instead of trying to control or own their partner. Here’s to the men who check their egos, often. Here’s to the men who don’t whine, complain, or make excuses. Here’s to the men who wake up early and want to build something.

Here’s to the men who choose to be a daily student, to learn from others instead of thinking they are better than them. Here’s to the men who open doors, kiss like they mean it, and love hard. Here’s to the men who don’t ghost. Here’s to the men who call people back. Here’s to the men who believe in foreplay. Here’s to the men who don’t live in the past. Here’s to the men who have the balls to stand up to their parents and family. Here’s to the men who know how to create a safe space. Here’s to the men who take ownership when they’ve hurt someone or done something wrong. Here’s to the men who believe in something greater than themselves. Here’s to the men who have fire in their belly. Here’s to the men who make decisions, walk with certainty, and dream big.

Here’s to the men who can separate ability from worth. Here’s to the men who remember birthdays and anniversaries. Here to the men who put thought into their gifts. Here’s to the men who understand the responsibility of being a father. Here’s to the men who spend time and engage with their children. Here’s to the men who are not afraid to show affection. Here’s to the men who choose to be vulnerable. Here’s to the men who say I love you. Here’s to the men who can control their angry, alcohol, and money. Here’s to the men who practice self love. Here’s to the men who are not needy or codependent. Here’s to the men who stay positive through turbulence. Here’s to the men who don’t exchange their truth for membership. Here’s to the men who understand compassion and empathy. Here’s to the men who don’t try to fix everything. Here’s to the men who do the dishes. Here’s to the men who want to make a difference.